What is the purpose of women in men’s lives?
This is a question which has been contemplated
throughout history—possibly even by the first
man. Men’s opinions on this question vary from
person to person.
Essentially, men are biologically driven to seek
sexual congress with women, to spread their
genes. While the act of sexual congress with
women essentially provides physical pleasure (or
fulfillment), the emotional aspects of sex too hold
some value.
Sex and “relationships” with women can provide
emotional happiness for some, albeit the reality is
that the nature of that happiness remains fleeting
and impermanent. The thrill of banging a hottie, or
the novelty of a new sexual conquest do provide
an emotional “high”—even if those highs may last
just a few moments. And after that feeling has
faded away, the whole process starts all over
Discontentment indeed is the lifeblood
of the evolving man
“Restlessness is discontent and discontent is
the first necessity of progress. Show me a
thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you
a failure.” – Thomas A. Edison
Is there such a thing as a perfect woman? No. Not
even if she was the most feminine, beautiful,
caring and chaste woman who magically had the
skills of the most skilled broad in bed. Even the
best qualities of a woman become predictable,
over a period of time, in the most successful of
marriages, LTRs, or mini-relationships.
Predictability sets in, and this eventually leads to
boredom and discontent. This is especially true in
“relationships” with modern women.
Men adapt individually to this in varied ways:
some seek sexual novelty, some adjust themselves
to settle in a “successful” relationship by
rationalizing to themselves that the present woman
in their life is a better proposition than the previous
women they’ve experienced, and so on. In fact,
most of the so-called “successful” relationships are
based on this “calibration of mutual interests and
In fem-centric western societies, men commonly
lower their standards to satiate sexual thirst and
seek female companionship by adjusting to
(commonly substandard) modern women. The so-
called successful relationships they get into are
usually those of staged togetherness—where either
or both the partners are pretending to be happy
while either secretly harboring unhappiness,
resentment, or in the worst cases cuckoldry and
When it comes to “adjusting” in relationships
today, a modern man often effectively rationalizes
to himself either or some of the following reasons:
1. He couldn’t find someone else better: Either
through a real lack of options in societies where
women are substandard, or through the bitter truth
that all women are the same
“Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing;
a confusion of the real with the ideal never
goes unpunished.”
– Goethe
2. He’d die alone , so he must find someone to
take care of him in old age, which means it’s wiser
to lower his expectations to have a companion
“Love is the word used to label the sexual
excitement of the young, the habituation of
the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence
of the old.” – John Ciardi
3. He must pass on his genes to continue his
4. He’d lose out on sexual access (moreso if he
has no game knowledge or his sexual frustration
blinds him to other options)
5. He’s jaded of sex with different women, so he
wants to “settle down”
“It is not from reason and prudence that
people marry, but from inclination.” –
Samuel Johnson
6. He’s finally found a unicorn (without realizing
that a Madonna and a whore can be the same
“Love is the illusion that one woman is
different from the other” – H.L. Mecken
7. He’s found someone who’s socially or
financially better than him: essentially he’s
“marrying up’ “even it entails being treated like a
dog or a bought slave by his partner.
8. He must be fair to his woman (and not subject
her to his will and authority)
“Marriage is one of the few institutions that
allow a man to do as his wife pleases.” –
Milton Berle
“A man who has never made a woman angry
is a failure in life.” – Christopher Morley
Or more. Either way, depending on the
circumstances, some of these reasons might hold
credibility and be valid ones to maintain a
relationship in the eyes of society. But do they
hold credibility for a man’s long-term emotional
Happiness is a time-influenced
(dependent) fleeting pleasure
Time—the most important thing in life—controls
the happiness in our lives, whether accepted or
not. Everything in life depends on the Time factor.
Our lives are finite. We are of course the masters
of our choices in our lives, but we cannot deny the
regulating influence of Time on our lives and fate
itself. Man’s control over his choices in his life are
limited, even if they might be great.
Time is also the greatest rationalizer in our lives,
more than people’s own hamsters. People
rationalize their personal experiences and
responses depending on the circumstances Time
thrusts over phases in their lives. This, however,
doesn’t mean we shouldn’t take charge to acquire
control in our lives. The wise man understands this
and masters himself to adapt to Time.
Happiness can be described as the feeling of
contentment we derive from successfully
achieving or doing the things we want— at the
right time, that is. But the right thing done or
gotten at the wrong time often becomes the wrong
thing. The foodie will find no happiness with food
at a time when he desperately wants to crap. The
lover of women will find no happiness with
women at a time when he is besieged with other
problems. The worshipper of wealth will find no
happiness in wealth at a time when he cannot
spend that very wealth to obtain what he wants.
Thus, time is the (often cruel) master of our
happiness, working secretly in the background. It
can delay our personal successes, while
prolonging periods of personal failure beyond our
control and in spite of our best efforts. How we
invest our time dictates the outcome of our
happiness in our lives. Happiness is itself rarely
instantaneously obtained at will.
Time also defines our relationships with women.
ROIs with women often also depend on how
quickly they’d put out. Our tastes in women
undergo transformations throughout the phases of
our lives, as do our relationships and interactions
with them, as we age. The reality about women
and relationships is that they all have a shelf life
when it comes to providing long-term sustained
emotional fulfillment in life for a man. There might
be exceptions to this rule, but they are highly
For some men, this shelf life of emotional
fulfillment through women can be a few weeks, a
few months, a few years, or a few decades—
depending on his level of adjustment (or
toleration), and the kind of woman he’s dealing
with. If he’s a person who has low attention span,
he’d feel frustrated as quickly as possible within
the emotional drudgery of a relationship with a
woman who has lost her novel physical appeal to
The solution is emotional detachment
Emotional detachment is one of the hallmarks of
an alpha. Alpha itself is a mindset. If there is one
thing I really admire about a fellow man, it is
never his woman, his wealth, or anything else. It is
his sense of emotional detachment to all these
pleasures. Game is a great way to achieve this
state of channelizing of the search of emotional
fulfillment in life to other factors apart from
women, while retaining physical fulfillment
through sex with women. What could be these
other factors which provide emotional fulfillment?
It could be a hobby, a life mission, a red pill tribe,
spirituality, or a development of a skill or talent
within you that provides inner fulfillment instead.
I’d rather suggest looking internally than
externally, for I believe every man on this planet
has a talent or is gifted in some way or the other,
but most of the time men themselves discover or
develop their hidden talents. Instead, they seek
external emotional fulfillment through interaction
with women or relationships, while letting their
personal gifts go to waste.
In short, the trick is to develop detachment to
emotional fulfillment from sex, while instead
seeking it through these internal factors that are in
your own hands. No woman can hurt a man with
options, so do you think a woman has even a
minute chance to hurt a man who is emotionally
The caveat of this is not to push emotional
detachment to such a level so as to lose complete
interest in women and become an ascetic. Aim for
moderation to achieve liberation from emotional
fulfillment through women. Sex is necessary, for if
it weren’t, nature would not have itself designed
male and female bodies with reproductive organs
to begin with.
The irony of relationships is that women often
want men to attach to them on an emotional level.
Sex, love, care, affection, or sometimes outright
subservience are ways women can get men to
become attached. This extends to all women,
whether traditional or liberated, sexual or platonic.
A man’s emotional attachment is the prize which
women seek. They all know a man’s emotional
attachment entails his emotional dependence and
manipulation, and eventual subjugation.
The power balance shifts in a woman’s favor once
she realizes a man is dependent on her for his
sexual and, more importantly, emotional
fulfillment and gratification. You’d see this in real
life cases where the “emotionally close” platonic
female friend wields more power over a man than
his sexually-gratifying bitchy girlfriend who is
emotionally unavailable to him. The more a man
emotionally attaches to a woman, the more she
wields power over him—even if it may be subtle.
This is one of the many reasons betas get
sidetracked by women: they are often emotionally
dependent on them, even when the women are not
offering anything in return.
Awakened alphas understood this throughout
history, and usually limited their interaction with
women to sex and pleasure – with emotional
detachment. Thus, they avoided slavery to their
“Woman is the occupation of the idle mind,
and the relaxation of the warrior.”
– Napoleon Bonaparte
One thing to note is that most of these emotionally
detached men had interactions with many women
in their lives, who actually assisted these men by
providing counsel or support. Why did those
women do that? Female agency? Nope. Because
that’s the natural flow of things, as I described
above. In the end, the one who loves the least
controls the relationship. Women know they are
easily replaceable in the life of an emotionally
detached man, who could walk away from them at
will. The power balance is always in such a man’s
Emotional detachment creates power and authority
in men—which women naturally gravitate to—
with the possible additional creation of mate
insecurity in women, who’d instead do more to
keep or impress their men. This can be in the way
of sex, love, care, affection, or even wise counsel
—to gain a man’s trust and, hopefully, his
emotional attachment.
On the flip side, a woman often loses interest once
she knows she’s captured a man’s attachment.
Women often do more to get men to attach
themselves, but then take men for granted after
they’ve achieved that.
The more you think about it, the more you realize
that emotionally detached men knew one thing:
that apart from sex, the ability to rear children, and
the ability to maintain a home, women don’t hold
(much) potential for investment for emotional
fulfillment—especially in the long run they
demand through love, emotional intimacy, and
The only real relationship a man actually has in his
entire life is with his own self. In the end, women
are at the best a garnish to the dish of life.
Regulate their involvement and use in your life, or
run the risk that they’d rule your life in the end.
Women can gratify you temporarily, but they can
never provide complete emotional fulfillment.
If you can succeed in liberating your emotional
fulfillment from physical pleasure in relationships
with women, then all power goes to you. You will
feel more psychologically powerful, which can
heighten your pleasure in all interactions with
women, both sexual and platonic. In this case,
your fulfillment will be be in your own hands, and
not hers.