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I still catch myself getting worried about things that don’t matter anymore in my life.

The funny thing is when we get clear on the things that don’t matter, we zero in on the things that do.

It becomes easy to let go of the unimportant.

It fosters gratitude for what we may have taken for granted.

Here is a mixed pot of things that don’t matter anymore in my life;

• Scrubbing my kitchen pots and pans until they’re sparkling

• Making the bed the minute I wake up

• Reading to the end of a book I’m not enjoying

• A ringing phone left unanswered,especially from a caller who doesn’t matter anymore in my life

• Getting less than a perfect score in any game of life

• Being stopped at an unchanging traffic red light until a traffic cop unjams the rights

• Paw prints on a clean floor

• Wearing the wrong clothes, shoes,socks

• Who dumped me years ago,I mean,the. painand heartbreak it caused is all gone,buried. under dustbin of time!

But here is the cream of things that don’t matter anymore;

»Defining my identity.

From the color of braces to the ringtone of my flip phone, everything i owned, wore, played, needed to define my entire life.

I needed a label, a status in the society that
is high school, but having an identity crisis at 15 is awfully dramatic.

Being the gymnast, the bass player, the guy with the Mohawk: not only are these labels irrelevant in our twenties, but more than likely we forgot all about them (although, hopefully the guy with the Mohawk finally got an adult haircut).

Come graduation day, that reputation you worked on for four years evaporates.

Starting college or your first job, no one knows and no one cares about who you were in high

You have to climb that ladder from the bottom of the totem pole once again, the difference being in our twenties we don’t find the need to characterize.

Put it this way, if we still identified ourselves with who we were in high school then my
email address would still be
soccerboy_love@yahoomessenger.com (oh dear).

»Grades were everything.

Nothing like the worry of Mr. Wilson’s history final determining the fate of your college career.
Chances are you can’t even recall what grade you got on that test you were so worried about.

We thought what stood in between success and
failure was whether you got an A or a B.

Although grades and GPA did play a factor in admissions and scholarships, they don’t ultimately determine your career path.

Having unique skills, a sharp tongue, charisma, and connections will get you further in life than your GPA score ever will.

You probably won’t catch a potential employer asking about your high school test scores.

They are going to value your experience,
your referrals, and your skill set when hiring you.

»Your parents are out to ruin your life

They gave you curfews, made you change your outfit, how dare they not let you go out with a senior boy/girl.

Lots of yelling,pouting, and slammed doors from what we remember about our days under our parents guard.

The general rule was that if fun was involved, mom and dad would make sure you didn’t have it, or so we thought.

Growing older, those ground rules we couldn’t understand appear to be more reasonable than before.

Our parents turned out to be smarter than we gave them credit for.

Bless them for putting up with those teenage years where we thought we knew everything.

Hopefully we now see that they were just looking out for us and those horrible rules and punishments were wrapped with good intentions.

We realize the importance of family and
appreciate their love.

»Doing it all

It seemed as though every Friday night was “going to be the party of the year” and if you didn’t go see that movie on opening night, then you might as well not see it at all.

So impatient, so juvenile.

There is always going to be another party, and you realize now you can’t be everywhere.

We learn in our twenties that our lives are enriched by spending time by yourself every once in a while.

You learn to prioritize and schedule better.

»Being friends with people that weren’t really your friends

You wanted to be in on the private jokes, the awesome poolside parties, the reserved seats at the lunch table, but was it worth hanging with people you didn’t really like?

Thankfully in our twenties and thirties, we realize that friendships can drift apart and learn to associate ourselves with people who have our best interest at heart.

Although frenemies and bullies can appear at any age,high school years were overly populated with deceit.

In order to be cool, to stand out, or just find your place, we did some pretty dumb things.

Trying to be something you weren’t or just wanting to fit in, those four years were tough.

We realized after high school that life moves on.
You eventually start to forget the names of most of your teachers, where you sat in home room, and your best friend’s home phone number.

You forget who was cool and who wasn’t, who was pretty and who was smart, who threw the best parties, and who dated who.

Everything changes, life goes on.

Don’t we wish we had that perspective back then?

So we must ask ourselves, are the things that matter in our lives today going to matter in ten years?

Do we value what is important?

Graduate from your mistakes, treat each day as if you’re turning that tassle, and remember what really matters.

Just some random thoughts that came to my mind….©Profarms’ Random Thoughts®