You owe it to yourself to be the best person possible

It’s almost Christmas time my dear friends and readers, and I have the usual problem of deciding what to give you as this year’s Christmas gift.

I know you might enjoy many things — books, games, clothes.

But I’m very selfish.

I want to give you something that will stay with you for more than a few months or years.

I want to give you a gift that might remind
you of me every Christmas.

If I could give you just one thing, I’d want it to be a simple truth that took me many years to learn.

If you learn it now, it may enrich your life in hundreds of ways.

And it may prevent you from facing many
problems that have hurt people who have never
learned it.

The truth is simply this: No one owes you anything.

Significance

How could such a simple statement be important?

It may not seem so, but understanding it can bless your entire life.

No one owes you anything.

It means that no one else is living for you, my friend.

Because no one else is you.

Each person is living for himself; his own happiness is all he can ever personally feel.

When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything else, you’ll be freed from expecting what isn’t likely to be.

It means no one has to love you.

If someone loves you, it’s because there’s something special about you that gives him happiness.

Find out what that something special is and try to make it stronger in you, so that you’ll be loved even more.

When people do things for you, it’s because they want to — because you, in some way, give them something meaningful that makes them want to please you, not because anyone owes you anything.

No one has to like you.

If your friends want to be with you, it’s not out of duty.

Find out what makes others happy so they’ll want to be near you.

No one has to respect you.

Some people may even be unkind to you.

But once you realize that people don’t have to be good to you, and may not be good to you, you’ll learn to avoid those who would harm
you.

For you don’t owe them anything either.

Living your Life

No one owes you anything.

You owe it to yourself to be the best person
possible.

Because if you are, others will want to be
with you, want to provide you with the things you want in exchange for what you’re giving to them.

Some people will choose not to be with you for
reasons that have nothing to do with you.

When that happens, look elsewhere for the relationships you want.

Don’t make someone else’s problem your
problem.

Once you learn that you must earn the love and
respect of others, you’ll never expect the
impossible and you won’t be disappointed.

Others don’t have to share their property with you, nor their feelings or thoughts.

If they do, it’s because you’ve earned these things.

And you have every reason to be proud of the love you receive, your friends’ respect, the property you’ve earned.

But don’t ever take them for granted.

If you do, you could lose them.

They’re not yours by right; you must always earn them.

My Experience

A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realised that no one owes me anything.

For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out —physically and emotionally — trying to collect them.

No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence.

And once I recognised that, all my relationships became far more satisfying.

I’ve focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do.

That understanding has served me well with friends, business associates, lovers, sales prospects, and strangers.

It constantly reminds me that I can get
what I want only if I can enter the other person’s world.

I must try to understand how he thinks,what he believes to be important, what he wants.

Only then can I appeal to someone in ways that will bring me what I want.

And only then can I tell whether I really want to be involved with someone.

And I can save the important relationships for those with whom I have the most in
common.

It’s not easy to sum up in a few words what has
taken me years to learn.

But maybe if you re-read this gift each Christmas, the meaning will become a little clearer every year.

I hope so, for I want more than anything else for you to understand this simple truth that can set you free:

No one owes you anything!

Just some random thoughts that came to my mind….©Profarms’ Random Thoughts®